The gift of waiting

Six years ago I met a boy. I had zero romantic interest in him, but we became the best of friends. We loved all the same things… soccer, live music, pizza + beer… the list could go on but these ones carry most of my memories of friendship with him.

We spent more afternoons at my favorite coffee shop in Jonesboro, Arkansas than I can remember between 2008-2010, sometimes talking and sometimes just sharing a table while I studied and he planned worship sets. We took as many trips to Memphis as we could to see our favorite bands play together. We talked sports and there was never anything more than a high five going on between us every time we left hanging out.

Then 2011 rolled around. He had a girlfriend at the time, and I remember beginning to think that I missed my best friend. Somewhere over those few months of our friendship having boundaries for the first time, I started to wonder if maybe I could like… really like him. Obviously this felt horribly risky, so I decided to just pretend those feelings weren’t there for a while.

I remember talking to some of our friends one night and saying, “Guys, I don’t know what to do. I feel like when I think about the girl he needs to end up with, and I start to describe her in my head… she sounds a lot like me.” There they were, out on the table. My feelings. Exposed. I felt naked and afraid. And I knew it didn’t even matter at the time, because he was dating someone else. Even if I did have real feelings, he certainly didn’t reciprocate them.

I didn’t know what to do. So I fasted. For 21 days I was asking God over and over, “Lord, if these feelings are from you, I trust you’ll take care of me, and if they’re not, I don’t want to feel them ever again.” …well about day 5, he broke up with his girlfriend. My prayer took a slight turn to simply saying, “OK God, I think I want him. Can I have him?”

At the end of those 21 days, there weren’t words written in the sky, there wasn’t a burning bush or angelic visitation… but I remember feeling like God had given me this deep sense of peace, and I remember feeling like I kept hearing the words, “Just keep being. I’ve got you. I have the best for you.”

So for about a month, nothing changed. Besides that I felt like my best friend was back — and that was good. So good. And then one night in March of 2011, he called and said he wanted to come over and talk to me. He told me he was sorry that he had missed a season of my life when he was dating someone. He told me I was his best friend, and he loved spending time with me. He told me he couldn’t really imagine time with anyone else being better than time with me, and that he felt like he was growing feelings for me that were bigger than us being just friends.

Side note: OK, I wouldn’t probably recommend that all relationships go this way, but our years of friendship prior to this conversation made this next part not weird.

So basically we talk all of it out, and decide: (a) I think I want to spend my life with you; (b) we should probably date first; (c) we don’t feel like it’s time for us to date right now.

He told me he knew that with his fairly recent breakup, and him being on staff at our church, and me being in leadership in our college ministry, that it just didn’t feel peaceful to jump right into dating someone else. So we waited. For months I’d been working through these feelings in my own heart, then we finally had the conversation I’d been waiting for, and it ended in knowing we needed to keep waiting.

I remember him telling me, “I don’t know how long it’ll be until we feel like God says it’s time… it could be two months or two years, but I want you to know that you’re worth it, and I am going to wait.”

(Obviously I’m crying at this point.)

And then we went almost three months without really talking or hanging out. (Cried plenty more times during that time period) We just… waited. We knew we shouldn’t toy with the line of friendship/more than friendship, so we just stopped spending time together unless our friends happened to be all hanging out.

It was hard! I had gone through this whole process of believing for something, and then being told I could have it — but not yet. God’s promises are funny like that. Sometimes He shows us what He has for us and then He invites us in to the refining place of waiting and contending — not because we need to earn something but because He wants to stamp us with His image in those places. There’s a piece of His heart to be found in the waiting.

I think in that season the piece of His heart I found was that He’s for me, no matter what. He was stamping on me a belief that His promises are true, and the things He promises are worth fighting for.

Three months later we started dating, and this weekend I get to celebrate two years of being Mrs. Noland Gilmore. As I’m looking back on our second year of marriage, I’m reminded that it’s been marked by the same thing that started it all: waiting.

It’s been a year of the two of us contending for something that we’re not sure if or when it will happen. It’s been a year of learning to carry each other in ways we haven’t had to before. It’s been a year of unfulfilled promises.

But today, I choose to celebrate. Because every day I wake up next to a promise fulfilled. And that makes me want to keep fighting for the ones I’ll see come to life in the future.

Cheers, my love — to all the promises we’ve yet to see fulfilled. What glorious days ahead of us!

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And cheers to all the rest of you — those things you’re contending for are worth it. Keep going.

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128 thoughts on “The gift of waiting

  1. There’s this girl and we both like each other but we don’t want to rush into anything because we want a successful relationship. That part with the “two months or two years” really hit me because that’s exactly what she said to me like word for word. I feel like I was meant to see this because yeah waiting is hard, but it’s so worth it.

    • I did… I didn’t just not eat for 21 days though, if that’s what you’re asking. I actually did what’s called a Daniel fast. (You should do some research on it!) Fasting is such a powerful way of connecting and contending WITH God for the things that are on His heart for us! I try to do it at least once a year.

  2. This post showed up on my newsfeed, and it was nothing short of God saying, “Hey, Sara, it’s Me. You’re going to be okay.” THANK YOU for your candid, honest story, and for being a sweet reminder of waiting patiently on Him!

  3. This was a great read! Thank you so much for sharing, I’m in a similar situation right now. Its been rough, since these past 3 months I’ve had so many things come at me and I’ve been in waiting periods for a while now on other roles. I know He’ll provide, God put it on my heart to ask her out after knowing her for years, I risked and we’re waiting now. I’m still faithful and I’ll wait for as long as I need to, she’s worth it, its just these periods of waiting is when God tempers us to be like Him and break out hearts like His has been. They’re so hard, but so worth it. Thanks again for the morale boost, I needed it 🙂

  4. Thank you for this!!!!!! It was simply beautiful and I needed to hear it so much. My best friend shared it on her Facebook, and I thought I’d give it a read. Well, it turns out this is what I absolutely needed to hear! I definitely believe that God has a soulmate out there for me but it can be so hard as a teenager to not just start a relationship with the first boy who smiles at you. Especially now, when there’s someone I feel a pull towards and he seems interested in me, but is dating someone else, it can be hard to just say ” Lord, I’m just being patient here. Whoever you have for me I will wait for.” but your post gave me so much hope and encouragement. Thank you! ♥

  5. In the world today, we need more stories such as yours. Thank you for sharing and reminding us that good things come to those who wait. The wait is worth it. I had just gotten out of a relationship, moved to another state, and basically started my life over again. Then I met this amazing man through a mutual friend. We dated, talked at all hours of the night, and were just at that beginning stage. I found that I was not ready after a couple of months for a long-term relationship as I wanted to wait and see if this was the right person for me. We stopped seeing each other for about 6 months. It was hard and I could not believe that he waited for me all that time. We reconnected and this past March was our 25 anniversary. I should note that when I first met him, he did not go to church at all. Before we were married, he attended confirmation classes at my church, was confirmed in the faith soon after we were married, and my father (a pastor) gave him his first communion. My mom who was dying at the time was able to see that and be a part of the celebration before passing away a few months after. I have given thanks that she was able to see him take communion before she left this earth. There are ups and downs, but just believe that God will see you through the hard times as well as the good times. Things do get better. Thank you for sharing your story. Would love to hear more when you reach the 25th anniversary.

  6. Reblogged this on Eat Pray Learn and commented:
    A fellow Waco blogger (that apparently goes to the same church as me) whose words are what so many young women my age and in this season need to read. Thank you for this difficult but beautiful reminder.

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  8. This is so beautiful! My love and I kind of went through the same thing except we dated first and then broke it off to decide what was we going to do? I prayed and prayed and it all came together 🙂 we waited about a year to “get things right” and now in September I’ll be Mrs.Kelvin booker for 2yrs!!!!! 🙂 I was 22 then im 24 now and I know God has a special plan for us:))

  9. Sitting here crying because this post is exactly what I needed to read today. I’m learning the same patient waiting from God & just made the decision to approach it with fasting. Parts of your writing could literally be excerpts from my prayer journal lately. Gave me chills. This was an answered prayer!

    Thank you so much for sharing.

  10. Reblogged this on mumbelle and commented:
    I love the 21 day fast. I’m trying it out myself while I’m going through a confusing time of wanting to date a good friend and him now being ready. Thanks for the great read!

  11. In His time He makes all things beautiful! Even my love story God wrote it. My husband was my ex bf in 1993 after 16 yrs God has brought us together. He is my destiny. We got married in 2010. With His grace & love we are growing .

  12. It’s amazing to me how God is at work all around us. I read this post thinking it would be a nice story about waiting for the one you are always meant to be with. Now, I see that He had another purpose. My husband & I miscarried our first baby in February this year, & I am BEYOND ready to be pregnant again. After month after month of it not happening and me becoming frustrated with myself & God, I’m slowly beginning to realize that I need to stop trying to control everything and let God work on my heart. I’ve been so ungrateful lately, I need a change. Thank you for this post, & praise God that I am not in charge!

  13. This is something I actually really needed to hear. My situation is vastly different than yours, but hearing this perspective on waiting for God to guide you through everything over time (rather than living in worry because the answer isn’t quite obvious yet) is important. I’m going to take this and use it to build my relationship stronger– with both my boyfriend and God. Thank you.

  14. My husband and I have a similar story. However, sadly, our story also includes a couple more bumps (like the first husband who left me for another, and his surprise daughter). Even still, God has taken us on an amazing adventure. Our sixth son is due in October, our 12th anniversary in November, and who knows what else after that! Keep sharing your story! So many people need to hear this (young and not so young!) 🙂

  15. This is beautiful. It makes me want to cry. I wish I would have waited before I got with my boyfriend. We are still together, been together for two years.. It was hard then and its hard now. You are a very lucky woman. I wish I knew you personally, I feel like I could learn a lot from you. I hope that God gives y’all many more years of happiness!

  16. I relate to this soooo well. My story of waiting for my husband is really similar. He was in a relationship so I felt like it was hopeless. But I talked to God about it for months and felt an overwhelming peace. I knew He was telling me to just keep going, just keep waiting. And miraculously I was able to do just that for six months. Then one day it just happened- he called me and he and I had a conversation much like yours: we wanted to be together, but it wasn’t time yet. So I waited again. That was three years ago. We now have been married nine months, and I am seeing more of God’s promises fulfilled between us every day. Blessings to you and your husband, and thank you for sharing. 🙂

  17. This makes my heart so happy. Thank you for sharing. I am so comforted by your story because I have been struggling with my spiritual walk, and your steadfast faith and trust in God through these times is very encouraging. I went through a tough breakup and reading this just gives me hope for a bright future set by God. Blessings and prayers to you and your husband, and thank you again!

  18. This made me smile and made my heart happy. God knows exactly what is right for us, and you’ve given us all a great reminder that love is patient. I hope you two have long and happy years together!

  19. Thank you, I needed this. For so long I have wondered and asked God why the wait, is it out-dated, is there really one person created for you? Your story has encouraged me in my process to continue forward, trusting that God knows me and has knows what I desire.

    Thank you for sharing and I am SO happy for you! There is nothing greater than love. I’ll say a prayer for you and your union, that nothing will touch what God has established!!

    God bless you!

  20. That is a great story. I actually grew up in Jonesboro, so it struck home for me even more than it normally would.

  21. Hey there. This story is so so beautiful. It’s amazing knowing God is so powerful through prayer and he always comes through. I’m currently in a same situation that my best friend is in a relationship and I have feelings for him, but I’m contuining to pray to God that he will come through. Every time I pray this prayer to God it gives me so much peace to trust him and that he knows what is best for me. It’s not always easy and is still hard tho but God is powerful. Thank you for sharing this beautiful story of yours. Waiting is worth it. Always believed God brings people in your life for a reason.

  22. Thanks for sharing! I am dating my best friend right now. We’ve been friends for about 3 years and have dated for over a year now. We are both worship leaders and work together as a team.

    Your story is very sweet and rare. Ours is a bit different, and still unfolding. I completely relate to what you said about the season of waiting. I love what you wrote here:

    “There’s a piece of His heart to be found in the waiting.

    I think in that season the piece of His heart I found was that He’s for me, no matter what. He was stamping on me a belief that His promises are true, and the things He promises are worth fighting for.”

    I have experienced that season of waiting (and will continue to as life goes on) in many ways. Yes, I am in the waiting period between dating and marriage, but I am also waiting for many many other things right now. I do believe God’s promises are true and I am clinging tightly to them now. I enjoy writing songs and I recently wrote one called “In The Waiting.” It’s basically a proclamation of God’s faithfulness in the waiting. The lyrics give words to those who may not have to strength to say anything at all and state simply that God is faithful in the waiting. I find so much strength in claiming His promises over my circumstances.

    Anyway, sorry for rambling a bit. I just got excited because I really enjoyed your blog. I looked at your bio too and saw some similarities between us. I have moved several times too growing up, and also call a place home where I have no family or ties: Colorado Springs, CO. I love traveling as well, and the reason we moved so much is because my dad is a college football coach. Which is funny because you talked about the stadium tour. My dad took us to many stadiums growing up, including the Rose Bowl stadium and UT’s stadium in Knoxville. I currently live just about 2 hrs from Knoxville in northeast, TN.

    Well, I just wanted to say hello and let you know I’m glad I saw your blog posted to my Facebook wall today! I followed you on twitter so I will see when you post again!

    Jenna Grace Hamilton

  23. I’m going through a period of waiting in my life at the moment and this really spoke to me. Thanks for sharing. I believe that God will pull through but it’s always nice to have reminders of His faithfulness.

  24. That was a really beautiful blog post. I had trouble reading it. I dated my best friend as well, and I thought God was telling me that we would get married some day. We were in a long-distance relationship most of the time, but we were so close and compatible. Some days were very hard though, being so far away. But one night I had a dream that I would be with Zach forever, and when I woke up I felt such peace. I thought it was from God. And it seemed like all of God’s signs pointed towards Zach. When I prayed, I felt as though the answers I was given said to fight for my boyfriend and for our relationship. He broke up with me after three years. Things had become more difficult, but I had been so willing to work hard for him – to work on loving him and communicating with him better. But he wasn’t willing to do that for me.

    I probably should have seen it coming. I genuinely thought that it was what God wanted for me. I guess that’s presumptuous, and maybe I was just telling myself in my head exactly what I wanted to hear. He was the first person I ever loved. But I’ve been very upset with God. I too, thought that if I just waited long enough and kept pouring my heart into that other person, that we would be able to be together forever some day. He hurt me very badly. At the very end, completely out of character, he had been flirting with and being physical with another girl.

    I have a hard time talking to God, because I thought that I had been doing everything he wanted – always praying, always trusting his plan, reading my Bible every night, staying in communication with him. And I know it’s not true, but I feel like he let me down.

    Any advice for this broken heart?

  25. I really enjoyed reading this. It’s very well written and inspiring to me being a single Christian woman. It’s so important to not only wait and God’s timing but to fast and pray also. If you have time check out my blog please. Memoirsofjazz.blogspot.com . It’s an inspirational type blog. God bless you.

  26. Just went through a breakup on Tuesday and I so needed to read this.

    I had thought for sure this guy was going to be a great guy, he had pursued me and everything like no other guy previous. Then out of the blue he drops me. For the past few days I’ve been moping around just wondering why it had to happen like this. What’s different is that this time instead of being mad at God, I’ve just sat here and re-worded a favorite verse from “What time I am afraid, I will put my trust in You.” to “What time I am heartbroken, I will put my trust in You.” and repeated it over and over and over.

    God has a plan. Thank you so much for sharing your story. It gives me hope.

  27. I am so blessed by this post, it has strengthened and encouraged me to hold on to my promises from God no matter the waiting period, it will come to past! God bless your union and may you fulfil his divine purpose in Jesus name!

  28. Thank you for sharing and being such an example. In a world where we only get to see is fiction and bad taste reality. Godly love is like water in the desert. THANK YOU in the name of many girls ♥

  29. Amen. I’m just now learning to wait on God as well. I have a choice to wait for God’s best girl for me or settle for someone who is good. The moral of the story is to wait on God’s best, and it’s inspiring to see that you did it and did it well. Thank you.

  30. What are your views on Christians consuming alcohol? Especially if you’re on staff? (not being derogatory, just getting opinions)

  31. I am a sophomore in high school. I have found a new passion for The Lord this past year and I have begun to want to love him in new ways. One of those ways was to stop dating and wait for the guy he wants me to marry. Can I just say that’s beyond tough? I went into our normal summer church camp this year really struggling with it and having it heavy on my heart. I wanted to date. I wanted that attention. To say the least, satan found me when I got back home and a boy found me. He gave me all the attention I had been looking for but my gut told me it wasn’t right. After talking to my camp councilor about it, I did what was extremely hard but I knew was right and let him go. This morning, my best friend sent me the link to your story. She had no clue that I had been struggling with this but said “I feel like God is putting it on my heart to send this to you! You have to read it!” I clicked the link and read your story. I feel like it was God giving me the conformation I needed that when you wait to date and do it in a Godly way it will always end up better. Thank you for sharing your story and letting it be such an encouragement to me as well as other girls.

  32. Wow…im in tears..this fits my situation just perfectly, i really think god brought me to this article!! I feel lost no more, god actually has a plan for me! God bless!! ♡

  33. I loved your post. The best I’ve seen in describing real waiting. The hebrew words of tiqvah and qavah. Thank you and keep inspiring us.

  34. Oh goodness, I’m all misty-eyed. Let’s be real. I’m sobbing. Sara, thank you for being a mouthpiece and speaking what me and many others needed to hear. Thank you for stirring my affections for the Lord, reminding me of His faithfulness, and re-sparking a persistent heart in me.
    Stay lovely.

  35. This post just “happened” to pop in my newsfeed this morning. For the last 3 years I have been waiting and hoping for something that truly felt/feels like God has placed it in my heart. However the last couple of months I have been struggling with doubt and impatience, despite constant reminders through songs, devotional time, Scripture, and friends and family all saying to be hopeful and wait. There are just so many things that need to take place in order for this to come to pass that I began to wonder if it was truly from God or if it was just my own hearts desires. I have been reading a few of your other posts about waiting and hope and each one has spoken to the very depths of my heart. I feel encouraged, that while I still don’t know for sure if this will ever come to pass, I need to wait, hope, and be refined. Thank you SO much for sharing.

  36. So inspiring story!!.. God’s time is always perfect!!.” delight yourself to the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”psalm 37:4.. Stay inlove with God..^_^

  37. Thank you so much for sharing this blog. You just encouraged me to embrace this season of waiting even more, and wake up next to a promise-fulfilled too. 😀

  38. I can relate 🙂 6 years ago I had the same prayer in the 5th paragraph… yet God gave a different answer… I’m so blessed… I could not ask for more 🙂

  39. Thank you so much for sharing this story, its beautiful and massively encouraging to me. I feel like God has been asking me to wait for a promise, I feel like I’ve been waiting for a very long time and recently, have started to feel like I’m not sure how much longer I can wait! But this post is my little miracle and a nudge from God to keep pushing through and diving deeper into Him whilst in the waiting season. Thank you Sara, you and your blog are a blessing!

  40. Thank you so much for sharing this. I needed to hear it. Been through a difficult 14-15 months as life has thrown me for a bunch of loops between a job, and the end of a long-term relationship with the girl I thought was the one for me. It’s been so difficult to be patient as I wait for God to open doors in my life with where my career and relationships should go. I know I have to keep pushing along, wait for God to lead me in where I’m going, keep growing in this season of waiting. Well done.

  41. Thank you so much for posting this. A friend of mine sent me this link, and reading your story I am in a very similar situation. As I was reading, I kept thinking, this is us not identical, but close enough. She’s worth the wait, now my main need is to give this to God and let Him show me the way that is planned. Thank you again! I wish you many many more blessed years together.

  42. Wow… 6 years ago I had that same prayer … yet in my story…God gave a different answer…God is so good… I’m so blessed… I could not ask for more 🙂

  43. Waited for 4 years. He confessed. Grabbing the opportunity. I didn’t wait. I rushed it through. Then got hurt. I stopped waiting. I stopped believing that someone better will be out there because the best for me was the one who made me think that love is a nightmare. Thanks for this story it really is wonderful. I was delighted to read this. So glad.

  44. I had to suppress a giggle when you wrote, “OK, God, I think I want him. Can I have him?”

    Love your relationship with the Lord. Love your relationship with your husband. And though “a year of unfulfilled promises” sounds gosh darn painful, I understand that it is worth the wait. 🙂

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  46. Wow. The words in your write up was really timely for me. 🙂 Thank you so much. Your situation resonates so much with me amd where I am now, reading this gives me hope. It may not necessarily bring me the same outcome but it still gives me hope.

  47. Wow… reading this made me remember 5 years back. Back then, I was with someone for nearing three years (G) where entering our second year, we became long distance. Then a lot of things happened, with his family and he ended up being too destroyed and the relationship dragging us both.
    It was then that someone from my past returned. And, being the usual “one-of-the-boys” me, I thought, well okay we can be friends but the chemistry was too overwhelming, he (Z) just feels like… home. Even without being able to talk for years.
    Fast forward a bit, G hated me, cursed me and everything… as he always does when I hang out with friends. I’ve been trying to break up with him but he kept saying he’ll kill my family and me and so on, even having his friends harass me on text and such.
    Then, one night, I just thought, this has got to stop. So I broke it off.
    All the time, through this chaos, Z was there, as a friend. He had said he like me, since we first met but he did try to fix things between me and my G.
    About two months after the break-up, I could feel myself falling for Z… and ofcourse my mind told me that this isn’t right. That maybe I’m just fragile at the time.
    And I prayed, for days, telling God to just, “Please, if Z isn’t the one, please make these feelings go away.” But I only fell deeper. On our first date, we went to the chapel nearby my university’s partner hospital… then a book store.
    We’ve been together since then.
    And will be celebrating our 5th year as a couple.

  48. Hi,

    This was a fantastic read. I’m in love with my best friend but she doesn’t feel anything for me. We have been like this for two years now. After reading this, I have come to realize maybe the wait will be worth it. In God’s time? After we both have grown. I don’t know. But thank for this wonderful article Sara

  49. Really inspiring, especially for young girls like me. Thank you for this! And Happy Anniversary to both of you ❤

  50. pretty much in this exact situation right now! waiting is hard haha but so worth it and i so agree that there are things we need to prepare and strengthen in ourselves before god allows it 🙂 god bless so glad to see this story!

  51. Wow. Just wow. Maraming salamat Mrs. Noland Gilmore for encouraging all of us to stand firm in faith and wait on God and His promises! Indeed, just like what Paul says in Philippians 1:9-11 — “And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled wih the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ – to the glory and praise of God.” Love is beautiful; and it’s even made more beautiful when done right. 😊

  52. Wow… I’m currently in a situation very similar to yours and I’ve been really struggling with it this past month. I have to say it does help, knowing that someone has gone through something close to what I am. Thank you!

  53. What if there is no “agreement” between the two of us that we should wait? I mean, we know the feeling is still mutual but I feel like we’re growing apart. We don’t communicate or see each other for two months now. I’m confused if this is God telling me to wait or to move on…

  54. This is just beautiful to read, although its hard to say I know you and what you went through, I’m happy for you. I’ve waited too for the one I love, but mind me asking, you guys sound so perfect! Were there times when you guys had disagreements or quarrels? How do you guys normally solve it?

  55. Thanks, this is so beautiful to read. Although I can’t say I know you or exactly what you’ve been through but I’m so happy for you guys. I too, waited for the one I love and manage to get her in the end and the process of waiting was just.. like being worried someone else might pop up and screw it up. Cheers to both of us. You guys sound very perfect and sweet though, mind me asking if you guys ever had disagreements or quarrels? If so, how do you guys solve it? Thanks buddy!

  56. I am not sure if I should wait. We told everyone that we are just best friend but recently when he confessed to another girl I died inside it really hurts. It’s then when I realise I really love my best friend which is also my dance partner. I am not sure what I should do now and I really hope for the best. Nope they aren’t together or maybe for now. Because the worse part here is, the one whom he confessed to was my best girl friend- three of us often hang out together before that. Now I am confuse I really am and I really hope for the best.

  57. I’m definitely in the waiting period right now, and it has been difficult, but I know that it will be worth it in the end. Thank you so much for your beautiful article, it was encouragement when I really needed it to keep persevering and trusting that God knows what He’s doing and His plan is best.

  58. I’ve been waiting for 14 years now. I’ve prayed many times over many years that God take these feelings away if I’m not to have them because I feel it’s unfair to whoever my future husband may be. I’ve shed many tears, felt my heart breaking, anger, frustration, and so much more. This person now lives nowhere near me and I can only speak to him via FB messenger because he’s in Africa. I don’t think about him as often as I did before, but it’s still on my heart that he is who I’m supposed to end up with. I hope one day I have a story like this or that God shows me another path!

  59. Yesterday I found this post in my news feed while I was at my best guy friend’s house & I read it while he was watching funny YouTube videos or something. I thought it was the cutest thing, and then went on with my day. Yesterday night, that best guy friend told me he needed to talk to me, and we had basically the same a,b,c, conversation you talked about in your post. It was so sweet and crazy to have read this right before it happened. I made him read this post after that conversation, by the way. 😉 thank you for sharing your story. I love seeing godly relationships, especially those that come from friendships. Best friends make the best relationships, in my opinion. 😉 Once again, thank you.

  60. I love God more than anything in this universe and so does my fiancé but waiting is not what we felt God wanted us to do. When we found each other and fell in love with each other and our love for god we started dating right away and I can’t imagine a day without him. We strengthened each other’s relationship with The Lord. His parents aren’t around and I was having issues handling giving my dad up to a new step mom and him being there right at that time was exactly what I needed and I am certain god meant it that way. Every story is different.

  61. I’ve read and re-read this a few times now. This really impacted me and a few friends that I shared it with. I have a friend who’s in a similar season. It’s hard for them, but they’re willing to wait the two years that it seems it may take. I’m waiting too, and this really just gave me a boost of strength, so thank you.

  62. Thanks for sharing….you have no idea how much this means to me. There’s this guy I like and he likes me back, but he doesn’t know if we should date yet because he wants to ask my dad first and we’re not exactly sure what we should do. We really want to date, but we don’t know if it’s the right time yet.

  63. thats why man n woman cant be just a very good n close friend, in one time, one of them will eventually fall for the other 😉 one who cant control, may cause cheat. -rin, FL

  64. I saw my friend sharing this post on fb and it got my interest to click in and read. It was so beautifully written! I can totally relate to your story because I had been there done. My bf and I waited for 10 months before we went official, and now we’re in a happy relationship for 2 years now. Truly it worth the waiting process. May God bless your marriage!

  65. Well I have this girl that I liked for about 5 months now? She treats me as her close friend so I really can’t do anything much about it. I’m not her ideal type at all but I really like her. After reading your story I’m very sure I’m gonna wait till she says yes.

  66. Thank you for writing this… I came across it this morning and it’s just what I needed! God is making me wait and I know in the end it will be worth every moment in waiting.. Going on 5 years since my divorce and at the moments I feel like giving up God provided stories like yours for encouragement. Thank you .

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  68. I was so inspired. I love this ‘There’s a piece of His heart to be found in the waiting’. You know it takes a strong faith to do what you did. I’m soooo happy for both of you. I pray that many other young people will be like you–patiently waiting for God’s promise. God bless you!

  69. I read this over and over again. Whenever I doubt God or think I’m crazy for knowing what God has in stored for my future,this calms my anxious heart. Thank you for this. I NEEDED THIS. I love you so much and I don’t even know you. Grateful for your testimony and transparency. You’re da bomb girl

  70. I never had patience for waiting someone. But, all those waits, prayers gave me courage to ask this girl I like, just a seat beside me. and she said yes. Now, we’re sharing a lot of common things, even how we looked alike. Such an inspiration from your story Sara. And, that reward for the patience, I gave back to her for promises for us both.

    You reminded me of God’s greatness to people who wait and pray for the best things in life.

  71. this hits me in so many places. i met a wonderful guy and we hit it off almost instantly. after going out a few times, the fast pace that we were progressing freaked us out (more him than me). it hurts that we have to take things slow now and revert our dating status down to just friendship, to give each other some space to think it through. we used to text everyday but now it has been much less. i’m still thinking about him and missing him everyday. i’ve been wondering if i should wait for him or let go of the magic that we had. friends tell me to move on and i’ll meet someone else. sure i will, but will i feel that same? i don’t know. i know it’s silly to wait around for some guy, but after reading your story, i’m hopeful that things will get better between us some day.

  72. Thank you for this post. I had this read to me one day by my best friend and thought he was trying to tell me something but pushed it aside. That was about 5 months ago. A lot of things have changed for us like, not living in the same town anymore and life transitions with school and work… and now he is dating someone. I dont know where our relationship will end up and if that is his “meant to be wife” or if there is another person for me. Your story does give me hope and also joy knowing that the Lord has it handled one way or another and trusting him is the most important. Thank you again for reminding me and others of this blessing. Wishing you the best!

  73. I feel from the depth of my heart that God led me to this blog post. I’m going though something very similar. And I just hear God saying “Its not time, Its not time,” Its like he’s calling my name saying eyes fixed one me honey. I know oh so well that it clearly isn’t time but I just realized that I’ve never really told God I’m willing to wait. If its his will, if its truly his plan, then I’m willing to wait. Thank you for posting this.

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  76. Amazing and super encouraging story! Praise God for his faithfulness. My boyfriend recently broke up with me. I’m in a waiting stage right now because I believe we are supposed to be together. I’m asking God to take away the feelings if they’re not supposed to be there or for him to reveal to me in a specific way if we are supposed to be together. All I have in my heart is peace right now. I don’t know what the peace means or what it’s for. But, I’m trusting God that he’ll take care of me because he loves me. It’s tough waiting. But, it’s kind of like you said…God reveals who he is to us during these times. =)

  77. Hi Sara!

    Tried to find a way to contact you by email but couldn’t find one. Tried to contact you via Instagram’s DM but not too sure if you’ve got it too :/ Actually, I’m not sure if you’ll even see this too.

    But if you do happen to see this, and you’re comfortable, I’m in a similar situation as your post and wanted to seek some advice from you. I know it sounds pretty crazy, considering we don’t know each other, but I think you would be someone to help me out in my decision making.

    Looking forward to hear from you!

  78. You will never know how this ministered to me. I’m 16 and God gave me a promise of something that could be 10 years away and it is inspiring to think about seeing the heart of God even in the waiting. Thank you so much for sharing!

  79. Beautifully written. Your love story is similar to my own. Best friends for 3 years. Both of us were done with the dating game after heartaches. Then through prayer, brought on by feelings of jealousy on my part, the Lord revealed His plan of marriage. I was hesitant to tell my now spouse but went ahead and did. His response “Well God hasn’t told me anything yet”, lol. Two weeks later God confirmed it with him. Our 1st date he proposed and 11 months later we were married. We will be celebrating 15 years of marriage in 2 weeks, Our love story was written based on our relationship with God and the friendship that He grew into a romantic love. We encourage our 4 children to follow this method of seeking God 1st, being friends, and not doing the dating game. God’s courtship is so much more of a strong foundation for a lasting relationship and there is less heartache to deal with.

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  81. I came across your blog a few years ago and I have been so blessed. Specifically, the story of how the Lord brought you and your husband together hits me in such a deep way. I needed this reminder today and I reread this specific blog again after first reading it two years ago. Thank you for your honesty and willingness to share. I have been so blessed.

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  83. I shared this two years ago today. I was waiting. I had been best friends with the man I knew God had for me for 3 years. We had a similar discussion on how we didn’t want to ruin the friendship, and we knew we wanted to date, but not yet. Wanted to take it slow and I told him that I trusted him to know when God said to move forward. Countless prayers and two years later, I can say that we have been together for 4 months now. I read this again today in tears because I know first hand how God remains true to His promises. Most everyone thought I was crazy for waiting for him, but God gave me peace throughout the years. Good things that are from the Lord are worth waiting for!

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